Secrets of Blissful Relationships

2006-01-18 Posted at 05:35:23 PM

SECRETS OF BLISSFUL RELATIONSHIPS

Is Your Marriage Going Broke?

by Michael Webb

http://www.50secrets.com/

Have you noticed that newspapers report that personal debt is at an all-time high and so are divorces?  Do you think there might be a connection?

In marital surveys, money and sex usually come up as the top two reasons for major discord between a husband and wife.

One of the biggest problems facing couples today is the huge amount of debt they bring into their marriage.  Not only are there more divorces, couples are calling it quits much earlier in their marriage than ever before.

One sure-fire way to insure a rocky start for a marriage is to have tens of thousands of dollars in debt (from student loans, credit cards or other bills).  Even a thousand dollars in debt can cast a dark cloud over your relationship if you don't have the means to quickly repay it.

Consider the rate of suicide during the great depression.  The stresses of mounting debt have pushed people to take their own lives and have been a major cause in the death of many, many marriages.

If you want to have a blissful relationship, you will need to get your debt under control (or at least a plan to do so).  Otherwise, your debt will physically and psychologically control you.

Here are some tips for getting and staying out of debt.

When you get a paycheck, the first thing you do is set aside money for charity/church.  Doesn't seem logical but it works.

Sit down with your partner and discuss all aspects of your family budget.  Only when you analyze your spending habits will you fully realize where you are wasting money.  It s a great opportunity to talk about your goals and dreams.

Realize that frivolously spending money can be a sign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.

If you would like a bigger diamond ring or a fancier car, ask yourself why.

Take a quick inventory of all the items you own but could really live without.  Consider how much you paid for them.  What if you didn't buy those items and had all that money in savings instead?

Would it make a difference in how you view your job, your family and your future?

Something to think about...

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As I read this article I took a quick inventory of all the items I own that I could live without.  The boxes of cotton material that I was going to make quilts out of, the yarn that I was going to knit sweaters out of, the craft items for the projects that I was going to make...... (I am planning on having a Quilters and Crafters sale in March to dispose of them and gain some extra $$ for my coffers.)......  And then there are the hundreds of books that I have stacked in every room of my house, some I've read, and some I haven't read, some I would part with wnd some I wouldn't.  Some I would give to the Library if I was sure they would keep them and not sell them, but I suppose once I give them away I shouldn't be concerned about what happens to them.  ....*deep sigh*  Just thinking about how rich I would be if I hadn't spent thousands of dollars on these items..... oh well, I am rich in knowledge anyway......LOL

All the best to you and yours....may you be blessed with knowledge and riches!!

Fran

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